Technology promises to make life easier, but what happens when it starts taking over the very life it was supposed to improve?
This week on “Ira’s Everything Bagel,” I talk with Heather Henderson, author of "Reclaim: How to Stop Scrolling Through Your Life and Start Living It," about the hidden costs of digital distraction and how we can take back control of our time, attention, and choices.
After a decade working in the tech industry, Heather began noticing a troubling contradic-tion: even the people creating technology were feeling drained and distracted by it. Draw-ing on her philosophy background at UC Santa Cruz and research that brings the issue to life through case studies, she explores how technology shapes our behavior—and how easily we can lose track of the hours we spend with our screens.
We discuss “unconscious time,” the influence of commercially driven technology, and the challenges of AI systems that increasingly tell us what we want to hear. Heather also explains why distraction is one of the five needs explored in her book, why even a healthy relationship with technology can have its pitfalls, and why she believes “presence is the new luxury.”
Most importantly, we explore a deceptively simple question: “Did I choose this, or was this chosen for me?”
Heather shares why bringing the human side of technology into her book was one of the biggest surprises of the writing process, how she made the book accessible and practical, and why reclaiming our agency may begin with something as simple as seeking more genuine human interaction.
Tune in for a thoughtful, practical conversation about technology, attention, and making more intentional choices in a world designed to keep us scrolling.
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